Friends:
Envy and Jealousy is a mix of own internal egoistic Greed and Hate!
How to cure these painful mental states of Envy & Jealousy:
1: Review the Danger in Envy & Jealousy like this:
'Ooh this is the very Acid eating up my mind from within... All
Happiness is Destroyed!'
2: Know that Envy & Jealousy arise because one
wants something that another has!
The aversion towards that person arise. Wanting (greed) is Craving towards
an object.
Aversion (hate) is Craving away from an object. All forms of Craving
causes Suffering!
Know that Envy & Jealousy is the proximate cause of
Discontentment.
3: Envy & Jealousy is cured by rejoicing in
other's success & gains: Mutual Joy!
(Mudita)
'How good that this being, having done good in the past, now earns the
well deserved fruit!!!'
Thus one substitutes an disadvantageous mental state with an advantageous
mental state.
Know that Mutual Joy! (Mudita) is the
proximate cause of Contentment.
4: Begin and Cultivate meditation on
Infinite Mutual Joy:
Sit down a silent & empty place with closed eye and beam from this the
heart:
'May I be successful, rich, beautiful, famous, intelligent, popular and
praised!'
then:
'May my friends be successful, rich, beautiful, famous, intelligent,
popular and praised!'
'May my enemies be successful, rich, beautiful, famous, intelligent,
popular and praised!'
'May all in this village be successful, rich, beautiful, famous,
intelligent, popular and praised!'
'May all in this country be successful, rich, beautiful, famous,
intelligent, popular and praised!'
'May all in this earth be successful, rich, beautiful, famous,
intelligent, popular and praised!'
'May all in this galaxy be successful, rich, beautiful, famous,
intelligent, popular and praised!'
'May all in this universe be successful, rich, beautiful, famous,
intelligent, popular and praised!'
beaming this tender sympathy out from the heart first out in front, the
right, left, back, above as
below,
so gradually expanding up to and beyond the limitations of space and into
the infinitude!!!
5: Keep on doing that 15-45 min every day. Note the
difference in joyous mentality during the day!
May all beings rejoice in
Mutual Joy
celebrating all beings success, since any real progress is good!
|
One should not despise giving.
One should neither envy others.
One who envy others cannot attain absorption and will never enter any
concentrated trance.
Dhammapada
365 |
Neither nice speech nor serene behaviour
make one accomplished, if one is still
possessed of envy, miserliness or deceit.
Dhammapada
262 |
Absorbed in distractions,
not paying appropriate attention,
giving up the goal, following the pleasant,
one come to envy those who of right effort!
Dhammapada
209 |
see also:
Rejoicing Bliss = Mudita and
Mutual Joy
Updated:
22 Nov 2009
http://What-Buddha-Said.net/drops/II/How_to_Cure_Envy_and_Jealousy.htm