The Relief of Relinquishing all Resentment! When one's resentment towards any hostile person has been allayed, then one can deliberately turn mind with loving-kindness towards any person: Both the very dear friend, the neutral person and the hostile opponent! By repeated praxis of meditation on infinite friendliness one gradually breaks down the mental barrier of evil opposition thereby accomplishing mental impartiality towards the 4 persons: oneself, the very dear person, the neutral person and the hostile person. Suppose a trainee is sitting in a place with a dear, a neutral, and a hostile person, himself being the 4th. Then bandits come to him and say, 'Venerable friend, give us a person so that we may kill him and use the blood of his throat as an offering'...! When one does not see a single one among these four people suitable to be given to the bandits and one directs mind impartially towards oneself and towards those three people, then one has broken down the barriers...
Breaking the Barrier to: Impartiality
Therefore the Ancient Nobles said: When he does not discriminates between the 4 persons: That is: Himself, the dear, the neutral, and the hostile one, Then "Skilled" is not the name he gets, nor "Most Friendly", But only "Kind towards all beings". Now when a bhikkhu's barriers towards all the 4 persons have been broken down, The he treats with equal amity all beings in the whole world; Exalted and distinguished is he, who knows no barriers... Vism 307
Entangled by the bonds of hate, one who seeks one's own happiness, by inflicting pain on others, is never delivered from hatred. Dhammapada 291 Breaking down the Barriers!