Anger,
Irritation & Aversion is diluted Hate:

How to cure these painful derivatives of Hate:
1: Review the Danger in Hate like this:
This
Anger can bring me to a bad destination, downfall, pain, even
to hell!
2: Know the outlet is
Patience, Tolerance and Forbearance:
The
Blessed Buddha once said: The greatest praxis is patience...
3: Begin and Cultivate meditation on
Infinite Friendliness:
Sit down a silent & empty place with closed eyes and beam from your
heart:
May I be successful, happy, calmed & freed from all hostility
and anger!
May my friends be successful, happy, calmed & freed from all
hostility!
May my enemies be successful, happy, calmed & freed from all
hostility!
May all in this village be successful, happy, calmed & freed from
hostility!
May all in this town be successful, happy, calmed & freed from
hostility!
May all in this city be successful, happy, calmed & freed from
hostility!
May all
in this country be successful, happy, calmed & freed from
hostility!
May all
on this earth be successful, happy, calmed & freed from
hostility!
May all in this galaxy be successful, happy, calmed & freed from
hostility!
May all in this universe be successful, happy, calmed & freed from
hostility!
Thereby gradually expanding beyond the limitations of space & into infinitude!


4: Note the elation &
Joy of
the mind so
trained
by infinite goodness
as object!
Whenever aversion, anger or irritation reappears, then immediately
redirect
mind to this
remembered sign of the mind released into
infinite good-will.
Please indeed note
that the anger then instantly evaporates and an ability
to smile at one's own folly temper can
begin to shine outward again. :-)

5: Training of
Infinite Friendliness
can induce the first
jhāna absorption,
and thus can lead to a high rebirth as a
divinely fine material brahma deva.
6: Keep on doing that 15-45 min every day. Note difference during the day!
May all beings be free from suffering,
pain and frustration and be happy.
May all beings be free from anger, irritation, opposition
& stubbornness!


The Blessed Buddha once said:
Let no one deceive another,
or despise anyone anywhere,
or through anger or irritation
wish for another to suffer...
Khuddakapatha 9
Slay anger and you will be happy,
Slay anger and you will not sorrow.
For the slaying of anger in all its forms
with its poisoned root and sweet sting,
that is the only slaying the Nobles praise;
With anger slain one sorrows no more!
Samyutta Nikāya I, 161


Not by anger is Hate ever quenched.
Only by Kindness is Hate always quenched.
This Ancient Law is an Eternal Truth ...
Dhammapada 5